New Mom: How to Alleviate Some of Your Fears and Worries About Your Newborn


Every new mother worries about her baby and the changes the newborn will bring to her life. Sometimes these concerns can drive her crazy. The new experience of looking after a newborn, uncertainty of the future of their child – all these things can influence a new Mom psychologically. Usually there is no need to worry and most of the concern is from lack of experience. Here are a few concerns many new Moms may worry about and how to alleviate these concerns:

Crying and whimpering~ It is a common thing for a baby to cry. Of course, the constant whimpering might alarm you. New mothers should remember that whimpering is normal for a newborn child. The new baby cries because he wants his needs met and that is the only way he can articulate this. He may be tired and needs to sleep,  or hungry and needs to nurse or a bottle, he may be thirsty and needs a drink, or his nappy (diaper) changed. New parents should try going through the list until the baby is satisfied and all his needs are met. If he continues to cry it may be for no reason at all other than he wants to be held and comforted. If your new baby seems to be crying a lot more than usual, even after all his needs are met, it may be a good idea to discuss your concerns with your Doctor.

Sneezing~ Imagine the scenario that after a walk outside with your infant, you come home and notice that the infant begins to sneeze. What would you do? Most new parents run to the doctor to examine the baby because they fear the baby may be coming down with a cold, but sneezing in newborns and infants is normal. Sneezing helps to clear the babies nasal  passages. The infant takes a breath to reopen his temporarily closed nostril, which can happen when you cuddle the baby closely. The only time you should worry about sneezing is if the baby has a runny nose, if he seems to have difficulty breathing, or if he seems to be running a temperature.

 Feeding~ Bottle feeding or breastfeeding, that is the question? A lot of new Moms worry about the correct method of feeding for their infant. Breastfeeding when possible is always the better choice, but some Moms may be concerned that the baby is not getting enough breast milk and may still hungry. The first few days of breastfeeding are the hardest and it may seem like your baby is always eating. Bear in mind that it takes time to establish an eating schedule for a nursing baby. If you have concerns that your baby is not getting enough breast milk, talk to your Dr. There may be underlying reasons and may suggest that you switch to formula to ensure your baby is getting enough nourishment.

SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome)~ Every new mother wants to gain more information about the baby, his nutrition, behavior, sleep, and other important things during pregnancy, so she can be to be ready for the new baby. She might use different sources, such as Internet, various magazines and books for pregnant women and talk with her own mother and grandmother. SIDS is the biggest fear for new parents, but the true SIDS occurs very rarely. It is OK to pay attention to the newborn and watch then as they sleep if that makes you feel better, but if you start worrying too much about the possibility of Sids happening, it is not good for you and it is not good for the baby. Stop worrying and stop looking for reasons on the Internet or other media sources for reasons to worry. Just enjoy your baby and if you have concerns talk to your Doctor so he or she can alleviate your fears.

 Sex after the birth ~A lot of new moms worry about resuming sex after the baby. It is best to wait until the lochia stops which can be from 3-6 weeks.Some new Moms may not feel up to it and may need more time, but eventually they will start to feel like themselves again and can start to think about enjoying sex again. Trust yourself and trust your body and talk to your Doctor if you have any concerns.

 About the author: Melisa Marzett is an excellent writer and, first of all, she is a mother of two children. She deals with parenting, nutrition, fitness and psychology.You can see some of her works at Or contact her at Melisa Marzett

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